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Never the right word but always almost the right world

This is a take for all aspiring writers out there, you’ve got to have a lot of guts in order to gain very little of the actual glory.I went to lunch with a dear friend who happens to have a decade’s worth of wonderful writing experience. She has worked in the advertising industry and as a technical writer with the real claim to any kind of financial gain being in the technical writing sphere.I introduced her to my column, almost embarrassed since I didn’t have the expertise and I’m hoping that I can get some actual criticism to improve upon my writing skills.It really got me thinking about what kind of writer do I want to be and wondering whether or not I could make a true living at it. Magazines and Online publications seem to be where my attraction is. I love social media such as blogging, twitter and…

Exercising the Mind – It’s like a muscle

I have been advocating this for awhile and now it’s cropping up like a weed in many blog forums etc that I subscribe to. Your mind needs exercise, are you getting enough? As we finish up the season of Lent and try to take hold of our New Year’s resolutions to exercise more, eat better and lose weight – – what have we done to exercise our mind.I subscribe to a daily thought and a weekly article from various sources, but this one struck me hard today. From Napoleon Hill Foundation, it stated that “The Mind Serves Best which is Used Most.” The mind is our most valuable asset and requires a training program that’s as organized and disciplined as any other workout.I recently got back from vacation and my mind is still recovering and a little out of sorts with getting back to normal. However, have I defined my…

The Seeds of Perfectionism

I had a conversation with my mother today about my dad. He was upset and she couldn’t figure out why. At once she thought that maybe it was her fault that she was rushing him. But that wasn’t the problem until finally he blurted it out.He is 70 years old and still works part time at the airport. He was upset because he missed 2 questions on a certification test. Now, he has worked at the same function for upwards of 35 years and has always been a person that works hard and takes his work very seriously – almost to the point of perfection. I’m pretty sure he could do this job without any problem whatsoever. He was very disappointed about this, until my mom said, “Well you didn’t study the book.”It was just a reminder about how much we can take for granted but also about how a…

The Multiplier Effect or Affect?

My coworker today explained to me that his mother was an english lit major and constantly drilled in him the difference in Effect and Affect. If you want to talk about a result or something that was caused or brought about then use effect. If you mean a noun or a verb that describes an influence rather than a cause you use affect.How did this little lesson impact the thought process for today’s topic of being fruitful? Am I the effect or affect towards contributing more to my life and others around me.My favorite Native American astrologer wrote her daily message below. Be fruitful and multiply? Think about what this means for you and what you can do to multiply everything around you rather than divide and subtract from it. Think multiplication! Think about what you are doing and how you might be taking away from your life, the land,…

Find a goal that scares the crap out of you

What do you stand for, really? Once you figure that out, and then steer your life toward it, you can start to realize your true potential. Here’s my own goal: I want to help you become your most fascinating. Because when you fascinate, your biggest ideas can actually make a difference.

Playful Communication in Relationships: It’s all about Humor & Laughter

Guest Post by Alia Haley Laughter is the best medicine because it has a very positive effect on your well-being and health. A good laugh can be the key to relieving stress and tension. Not only that, it can also enhance your mood, enhance your creativity and brings a great rush of energy. Laughter when shared with someone is a very important part of developing a strong and healthy relationship. Making a conscious effort to bring in humor and laughter on a daily basis is perhaps the best way to forge lifelong relationships with almost anyone – whether in the family or at work! Communicating with people in a playful manner adds more excitement to the relationship and helps in keeping it fresh and vibrant. Laughter can be a great way to break the ice and enrich interactions. Similarly, laughter and playfulness with your partner is the essence of a…

You’re going to be inspired whether you like it or not

So I was having a difficult time yesterday asking my four year old to do her homework. We got home and she went straight to the television. So I told her that she must finish her homework before any television. She looked at me defiantly and said “no!” Then I commanded, “Do your homework!” for which she replied, I don’t have any crayons. Now, if that statement were true, I wouldn’t be stepping on crayons all the time. So I told her, to open the drawer and grab her bucket full of crayons. She proceeded to get her crayons and her picture and plop on the bed with the television on. I pitched in for the compromise and said you can keep the tv on but you have to also do your homework. I will be back in 10 minutes to check on you Really?!?! At four years old, it’s…

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